After You Hear Why Babies In Orphanages Don’t Cry, You’ll Hug Your Littles One A Little Tighter

Updated March 13, 2017

Dayna Mager took to Facebook last year to post a photo taken of her laying with her daughter Luella in a crib. The story she shared that prompted her promise to her daughter quickly went viral.

The photo she posted was taken by her husband several weeks’ prior, capturing a moment, as she explains: “There I was in the heat of this exhausting, beautiful thing we call parenthood, and I remembered a promise I made to her.”

Mager shared a story with the photo post, a story that was so devastating, it’s almost hard to read. She wrote: “One of the first times Matt and I left Luella, was to a worship concert. At that conference, a missionary shared his story, and it shook me to the core. A moment that would forever be burned in my fragile, hormone raging, new mommy heart that had already become 100xs more fragile after meeting her.”

She continued: “That missionary was in an orphanage in Uganda, and he has been in many before, but this one was different. He walked into a nursery with over 100 filled cribs with babes. He listened in amazement and wonder as the only sound he could hear was silence. A sound that is beyond rare in ANY nursery, let alone a nursery where over 100 new babes laid. He turned to his host and asked her why the nursery was silent. Then, her response to him is something I will never, ever forget. EVER. This was my ‘why’ moment.”

Mager revealed, “She looked at him and said, ‘After about a week of them being here, and crying out for countless hours, they eventually stop when they realize no one is coming for them…’”

Let that sink in. Mager noted, “They stop crying when they realize no one is coming for them. Not in 10 minutes, not in 4 hours, and maybe, perhaps, not ever…”

Her response is not unlike most anyone’s after hearing this story, as Dayna explained, “I broke. I literally could have picked up pieces of my heart scattered about the auditorium floor. But instead, it stirred in me a longing, a hunger. A promise in my spirit.”

With this story in her heart, Mager was moved in a big way, noting, “We came home, and that night as Luella rested her tiny little 10lb body against mine and we rocked, I made a promise to her. A promise that I would always come to her. Always.”

She shared the details of her promise on Facebook, writing: “At 2:00am when pitiful desperate squeals come through a baby monitor, I will come to her. Her first hurt, her first heartbreak, we will come to her. We will be there to hold her, to let her feel, to make decisions on her own, and we will be there. We will show her through our tears and frustrations at times, that it is okay to cry, and it’s ok to feel. That we will always be a safe place, and we will always come to her.”

Needless to say, Mager’s Facebook post went viral, earning more than 68,000 likes and almost 24,000 shares.