A woman’s wedding day is a huge event in her life and typically one that her family is involved in.
Fathers typically give the bride away after walking her down the aisle and, in the absence of a biological father, another man, including a stepfather, may step in for the role. One stepfather, who felt snubbed by his stepdaughter, took to Reddit to share the details of the story.
Redditor godzilla_moon, explained how he financed tens of thousands of dollars for the day, noting:
“My stepdaughter will be getting married on August 3rd. The wedding planning has consumed most of her and her mother’s life (I say her mother because we aren’t married, though we’ve lived together for 10 years) for the past six months. My stepdaughter graduated last December from university. I paid for her to go to college, though it was a state school it still ran $40K. She does not have a job and has been living with us for the duration of her college career and since her graduation. I also bought her a car to get back and forth from school when she finished high school.”
Given all of that support, you’d think his stepdaughter would be grateful, but you’d be wrong.
He further explained: “From time to time her deadbeat father would pop into her life and she would fawn all over him. Although he has not contributed a cent to her education or paid any child support, though that is my girlfriend’s fault as c.s. was not part of the settlement, she still loves him and wants him in her life. He stays long enough to break her heart by skipping town and breaking some promise that he made her.”
Since he forked over a sizeable amount for the wedding, he hoped to have a small voice in the planning, including a list of 20 people he wished to invite. He explained, “They told me that was no problem and they’d take care of it. So I let these people know they’d be getting an invite and they should save the date.”
Turns out, his guest list wasn’t invited, though one of his friends did show him an announcement, which he explained, “…my name was nowhere on it. It had her dad’s name and her mom’s name and not mine.”
Obviously, all of this didn’t sit well with the man, as he further noted: “This led to a pretty big fight with my GF, as I found out that NONE of my list of twenty ‘made the cut’ for the final guest list.”
It turns out, the situation got worse, as he explained that his stepdaughter announced at a dinner with the future in-law’s family that her “real dad” would be walking her down the aisle.
He noted: “I don’t think I have ever felt so angry and so disrespected. I was shaking. I took a few seconds to gather my composure, because I honestly wasn’t sure if I would cry or start throwing punches or both. Once I was sure I’d be able to speak I got up from my chair and said I’d like to make a toast.”
He continued: “I can’t remember exactly what I said but the gist of it was this: ‘I’d like to make a toast…It has been my great pleasure to be a part of this family for the past ten years…At this point in my life I feel I owe a debt of gratitude to bride and groom, because they have opened my eyes to something very important. They have showed me that my position in this family is not what I once thought it was.’”
He further explained there was “confusion and shock” among those present, as he continued: “Though I once thought of myself as the patriarch or godfather of the family, commanding great respect and sought out for help in times of need, it seems instead that I hold the position of an ATM, good for a stream of money, but not much else. As I have been replaced as host, both on the invitations and in the ceremony, I am resigning my financial duties as host to my successor, Real Dad. So cheers to the happy couple and the path they have chosen.”
He explained, “I finished my drink. ‘You all can let yourselves out.’”