For those of us who can remember to that dark age before Facebook, there is something about being tagged in every post that your spouse makes that can sometimes become wearisome. One husband and father who blogs about family life, used to complain that his wife tagged him too much. But then he had a revelation, and know he understands. You are going to love this man’s new perspective.
Brad Kearns runs the blog DadMuM, where he frequently talks about family life from the patriarch’s viewpoint. One thing that always bugged him was the way his wife tagged him in almost every Facebook post she made. But then one day he had an epiphany.
“Every day she tags me in stuff on Facebook. Every day. Like several times a day. As if she bounces around the internet just looking for random shit to let me know is out there. Memes, events, stories etc. I used to find it annoying. I didn’t really know why half of it was relevant. But over time I’ve learned that she tags me in shit because it’s either funny, insightful or relevant to us and our relationship. Sometimes it helps her tell me something because it’s so relevant and she couldn’t have said it better herself. I try to make a point of acknowledging it. It doesn’t take any effort at all.
To be honest it helps me gauge where she’s at and what she’s looking at online. Sometimes it forms the basis of our conversations when I get home. So often I come home to a “Did you see that thing I tagged you in?” As silly as it sounds it helps us communicate. Women tag men in basically everything I ever post. I always see the same reply of “I ain’t reading that” or “too long”…. that’s it….
The conversation goes no further. Whatever message she was trying to send him was rejected because of sheer arrogance and inability to take a few fucking seconds to read something that was probably important to how she was feeling. Read the post. Just fucking read it. If she tagged you in it, she wants you to look at it. If you were at the park and she said “hey look at that” would you ignore it? Would you make a snide remark about how much effort it will take you to see it? I think not. Show her you love her. Let her know you care. Read the fucking post!”
Interestingly, although his message was for husbands, most of the responses he has received have been from wives, like Terri Lee Smith, who said “I tagged my husband in your beautiful post last night. He was sitting in the lounge with me and looked at me and said ‘do i really have to read this?’ I replied ‘yes you freaking do!’ Poor bloke sat on the floor for 5 minutes. Still not sure if he read it or just glared at his phone pretending.”
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