Mom Drops Kids Off At Daycare, Left Fuming After Seeing Mysterious Note Left On Her Car

Updated December 7, 2017

Making the decision between staying home with your child and working a full-time job is a tough one and unfortunately, not everyone has the luxury of choosing between the two and they either have to put their career dreams on hold or they have to risk spending less time with their growing babies.

It’s not an easy decision and one that is personal for parents, but people are getting really vocal about the topic after a mystery note was left on the door of a 38-year-old mom, Joanne Flynn in Muswell Hill. The note said the following…

“Dear parents, I live near you and I see you taking your baby to the nursery… I notice your baby is very distressed and disturbed coming/going to the nursery. The hours you have your baby in are just far too long and this is so disturbing for a baby as they only want their mum. You have missed so much… you can never get those years back, and someone else has had those years. There is no point in having kids for someone else to bring him or her up.”

The author of the mystery letter called herself Sheila and claimed to be a mother of children who are now grown. She also went on to share that long hours at a nursery can affect a child’s learning development as they are stressed from being away from their mother for such a long period of time. She included that a child wants to be and should be around its mother up until he/she is four-years-old.

Flynn was fuming when she received the letter and she posted it on a Facebook group that has 5,000 members, all of whom are Muswell Hill parents, alongside the following comment…

“If “Sheila” is in this group, my husband and I would like to have a conversation with you face-to-face to discuss this.’”

Muswell Hill is an affluent neighborhood in the suburbs of North London and the majority of both parents work.

Believe it or not, commenters had a mix of opinions about the topic. Some felt that “Sheila” was completely in the wrong and she shouldn’t have voiced her opinions and cast judgment on someone she doesn’t even know…

“I’m really shocked and saddened that someone felt the need to encroach on your family life in this way. I’m sure you are doing what’s best for you and your children.”

And others felt that one parent should be home with their children, instead of having strangers raise them…

“I honestly think you can tell the difference between children who are raised by nurseries and those raised by a full-time parent.”

Others proved that you can raise your children and go onto be successful in a career…

“Stayed at home until my youngest child started school. Was a real struggle. Went on to have a very successful career afterwards.

Some research suggests that children who spend their early years in daycare actually develop faster than those who stay home with their mothers. And on the other end of the spectrum, babies who go to daycare too early may have a fear of strangers, which could cause them to experience separation anxiety. In this case, they suggest that it is best to postpone returning to work.