Mom Livid After School Calls Her Daughter’s Outfit Inappropriate, Writes Scathing Letter

Updated September 5, 2017

Every year, dress code violations keep popping up in the headlines. Whether it is a Montana high school senior who doesn’t want to wear her bra or a home-schooled student who is kicked out of prom because the chaperones find her attractive, dress code violations often point to a problem in the system rather than a student’s decision of what to wear. But when one teen’s mom learned that her daughter got in trouble for violating the dress code, she put her expertise in parenting to good use. Dr. Catherine Pearlman wrote an open letter on that called: “Invitation for Principal to Take My Daughter Shopping After Dress Code Violation.” See how Dr. Pearlman blasted her daughter’s principal below.

The note read in full:

“Thank you for sending a note home for the second day in a row to say my daughter was dressed inappropriately for school. I’d like to offer an additional thank you for forcing her to change into large mesh shorts that have been worn by only god knows who and potentially never washed.

“To reward you for treating my daughter with such concern, I am cordially inviting you to take my daughter shopping.

“Here are the specifications you have to work with. I wish you loads of luck.

“She is 5’7” and 13 years old. Built more like her father, she has exceptionally long legs and arms.

“She doesn’t like anything pink or purple or frilly.

“She won’t wear pants because she gets overheated easily. Trust me I’ve seen this. It will cause a scene in the school yard.

“She absolutely will not wear a dress either.

“No item of clothing can have a logo visible because to her that’s not cool. She will however, wear any type of superhero, Green Day or USFL T-shirt if you can find them. You might be able to try for an occasional Beatles reference but that’s touch and go.

“Now, don’t forget that you will have to find something in the stores that also meets with your dress code requirements. Here are the tricky areas that are most difficult to avoid. As per your policy she cannot wear tank tops. Shorts and skirts must not extend to the end of the fingertips (This is a toughie.)”

She added in a post script, “I forgot to thank you for making it clear to my daughter that her body is somehow a distraction, either to herself or to the boys. I thought she might have missed the message earlier in the year when the gym teacher told her she couldn’t wear yoga pants because the boys aren’t able to control themselves. I appreciate how hard you are working to drive the point home.”

Although Pearlman didn’t actually send the letter, she thinks it still sent a powerful message.

People on’s forum where Pearlman posted the note were still glad she posted it.

“I remember the days when our dress code stated that we (girls) couldn’t wear pants to school. We know how that turned out. It’s time for your daughter and friends to strike. It worked for us,” noted an older reader.

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