When a concerned mother and author Michelle Icard went into her local Starbucks, she quickly overheard a horrible situation. Three “very pretty” girls were making fun of a fourth girl who was not present. They were saying horrible things behind her back and this concerned mother couldn’t stand it. Instead of telling them to be quiet or stop, she penned a thoughtful note encouraging them to “be kind.” The effect was dramatic and when Icard shared her story on Facebook, the world shared their appreciation for her…
Icard couldn’t believe what she was overhearing in her local Starbucks. She wrote on Facebook:
“I’m crawling out of my skin sitting next to three very pretty, very boisterous, horribly behaved young teenage girls. So far they have laughed about 1) a girl who wrote a song for the talent show about being lonely … 2) the crappy presents they have gotten in the past from friends 3) girls who copy them. … It is taking all my restraint to keep from exploding so I’m complaining to you all instead.”
Icard had to get out of the situation. So, she went grocery shopping. On her way home, she saw the girls stilling lounging at Starbucks.
“I ran into my house, grabbed a note card and wrote a quick, heartfelt note. Then I ordered three mini frappuccinos on my mobile app and headed back up to Starbucks. They were still there. I walked up to them and said, ‘Hi Girls. You don’t know me but it looks like you’re here studying and I wrote you a note of encouragement.’ I handed them the card and walked away. (The drinks weren’t ready, but the barista agreed to delivering them for me.)”
The inspiring note read:
“Hi Girls! I sat near you today in Starbucks and listened as you talked. You three are obviously pretty and hard-working. I wish your kindness matched your pretty exteriors. I heard you talk about a girl who sang a song about being lonely in the talent show — and you laughed. About a girl who couldn’t be lead singer because you got all the votes, about crappy presents other people have given you … and you sounded so mean and petty.
“You are smart and you are pretty. It would take nothing from you to also be kind. — M.”
Because Icard wanted to encourage these girls to be better, the internet supporter her intervention. She could have been rude or condescending. Instead, she showed them kindness and encouraged them to change their attitude.
“I have a pretty strong mind-your-own business policy, but I was sitting there having such a visceral reaction,” Icard told me. “I thought, ‘Maybe nobody else is going to give them this feedback. I don’t know that they’re going to hear this any other way.'”
In the end, Icard signs off with a simple message: “Sometimes, at that age, you go along, but you feel a little guilty,” Icard said. “I hope this causes them to re-evaluate that feeling if they had a little of it.”
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