Nothing in life compares to the moment a woman gives birth to her child and becomes a mother. In a moment, she now must care for a tiny human life and ensure that the child grows into a healthy and happy adult. While it is impossible for moms to protect their children from everything, they usually do their best to make that happen. But it’s tough to be a mom, especially when society passes judgment after judgment. And if mom wants to do right by their child and breastfeed, they’re going to face even more pushback if they decided to feed their child while he or she is hungry in public.
Children come into the world one of two ways. Either they have a vaginal birth or are delivered via a C-section.
And before one anonymous woman even gave birth to her child, she found herself the victim of discrimination. She wanted to hire a photographer for services, but the photographer refused because the woman was expecting to have a C-section rather than a vaginal birth.
And while that was bad enough, the photographer went far enough to say that a C-section was not even a “real birth.”
The mom shared the conversation to the Sanctimommy Facebook page with the names blurred out.
Mom writes to the photographer that she did not choose to have the C-section, but needed it for medical reasons.
“I didn’t ‘opt’ for anything but alright. I had no idea birth photographers discriminated people for how they birth their babies, but that’s good to know. Have a nice day.”
As mom should be, she is offended. This photographer discriminated against her when choosing to work for her or not. But after mom wrote that comment, the ignorant photographer shot back with a message that went on to infuriate mothers across the world.
“A surgery isn’t birth, my dear. You aren’t giving birth. You are having a surgery to remove your baby from your abdomen. That is not birth no matter how you swing it and for one don’t want to be there to take pictures of it. If you decide to give motherhood a go from the get and have an actual birth let me know and we can schedule your session.”
To add salt to the wound, the photographer then wrote:
“This motherhood job is hard, if I were you I would think twice about starting such a job by cutting corners so early in the game.”
C-sections have been instrumental in saving lives during birth. And in a 2011 study printed in Expert Review of Obstetrics & Gynecology, it was written that C-sections are one of the most common procedures for women in developed countries like the United States. Statistics estimate that one out of three women has a C-section at some point in their lifetime.
Sometimes doctors schedule C-sections for reasons the mother cannot control. According to Global News, these reasons include “advanced maternal age, multiple pregnancies, breech presentation, suspected low infant birth weight, and increasing maternal BMI.”
There is also a host of other reasons.
Do you think this mother should sue the photographer for discrimination?