Parenting advice is like a spaghetti and meatballs recipe – everyone’s got their own unique take. So when trained experts recently came out against kissing your kids on the lips, some parents were not convinced. It’s been a contentious issue for years, with parents and experts battling it out with each other and among themselves. One child psychologist is putting her own opinion in the ring, but it definitely isn’t a crowd-pleaser!
The Stir is a popular blog with parents looking for advice on raising their kids the right way. They wanted to get a better answer on this issue, so they reached out to child and educational psychologist named Dr. Charlotte Reznick.
“If you start kissing your kids on the lips, when do you stop?” Reznick asked in the lengthy discussion. “It gets very confusing.”
This isn’t the first time the discussion has been up for debate online. The fire has been raging for years, especially when celebrities are caught on tape kissing their kids on the lips. People online love to share their opinion about controversial topics and this one is no exception.
For Reznick, it’s all about damage prevention. Children develop a sexual understanding at a young age, so kissing them on the lips can lead to confusion down the road. This typically happens around 4 or 5 years old, which Reznick claims would be the maximum cutoff for kissing your kids on the lips.
“If I had to answer when to stop kissing your kids on the lips, it would be now,” she said assertively.
Celebrities who’ve been caught kissing their kids include Hilary Duff and Harry Connick Jr., but both have defended their actions with passion.
“For anyone commenting that a kiss on the lips with my four-year-old is ‘inappropriate’ go ahead and click a quick unfollow with your warped minds and judgment,” Duff said when her peck went viral.
Other psychologists agree with Duff over their colleague Reznick, including Dr. Sally-Anne McCormack.
“There’s absolutely no way that kissing a young child on the lips is confusing for them in any way. That’s like saying breastfeeding is confusing,” McCormack says.
When Victoria Beckham was caught on camera kissing her daughter on the lips, some fans criticized her. But many others came out in her defense, claiming that it’s a totally normal thing to do. Society is clearly divided on this issue and there is no definitive resolution in sight.
“In total support for Victoria Beckham kissing her daughter on the lips,” wrote Patrick Quirke.
Others called her a child molester and a pedophile, saying that her head tilt made the photo uncomfortable. It does appear to be a romantic-looking kiss, although it obviously isn’t due to the nature of their relationship.
One mother summed it up well, saying, “If that’s weird to you, I completely understand. We all draw our own boundaries for our own reasons.”
If only more people would allow themselves to empathize like her! What’s your opinion on this controversial debate? Share in the comments!