One father doesn’t want his future son-in-law getting into a situation that might not be fair. Because his daughter was diagnosed as a sociopath when she was very young, the concerned father does not want his daughter destroying the life of the young man who has fallen in love with her. Not only did she exhibit “disturbing behavior” when she was younger, but she also does not “feel love” and might be using the fiancé in ways that no one could ever dream.
Because the father does not want the young man getting into this nightmare situation, he has turned to the internet to get a second opinion. He wants to know if he should tell the young man “all the facts” about his sociopathic daughter before he marries her and vows to spend the rest of his life with her. He shared the question about whether or not he should reveal the truth about his unfeeling daughter on the “AmItheA**hole” subreddit on the social media website.
Because the man’s 25-year-old daughter is engaged to marry a young man – who knows nothing about her true personality or the fact that she is a disturbed young woman – he turned to the internet wondering if the boyfriend “deserves all facts” about the girl.
The dad wrote, “I’ve been able to have a good relationship with my daughter, and I enjoy my time with her, but there’s one thing about her that would give many people pause – she is a diagnosed sociopath.”
The father continued by describing the horrible behaviors that his daughter had committed when she was younger.
“She exhibited odd, disturbing behavior at a young age, and after a serious incident of abuse toward her younger sister, I realized she needed professional help.”
The father admitted how his daughter would lie and commit cruelty while at school. She would often get in trouble. Because he realized how severe her situation was, she got the psychological help she needed to adapt to everyday life, and as a result, her “bad behavior was minimized as she grew older.”
But that did not mean that the underlying issue went away. To the contrary, it resulted in a serious diagnosis.
When she turned eighteen, only seven years ago, the daughter was diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder (ASPD), which is a mental health disorder where people disregard others entirely.
Although she now holds down a job and has “many friendships and admirers” – mostly male admirers – he is concerned that this unsuspecting fiancé has no clue she’s really a hibernating monster.
“She is very, very charming and adept at attracting guys and maintaining their interest. She uses that old dating guide ‘The Rules’ like the Bible,” the concerned dad wrote on Reddit.
Because the fiancé is “crazy about her,” he is worried that the young man might be in trouble.
“He is a great guy, very kind, funny and intelligent,” the father wrote. “But I doubt she loves him. We’ve had some very honest, in-depth discussion about her mental health since her diagnosis, and she’s been very open with me that she doesn’t feel love or empathy toward anyone, even family.”
Should he marry her? Should the father tell the fiancé the truth?
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