Children flourish when they have a loving home environment with access to their family members. While children need their mom and dad most, other members of the extended family also provide a positive influence on little ones, including aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, and great-grandparents. However, one mom has set very strict rules on when and how the child can be hugged or kissed by their grandparents.,
The mom who doesn’t want the grandparents to touch her child whenever they want is from Australia. Her name is Brittany, and she turned to the Chinese-created social media app, TikTok, to vent her concerns to anyone around the world who would lend her their ear to listen.
In the viral TikTok video, Brittany explains that her nearly two-year-old daughter has been taught since birth the rules of consent. This means that the little girl knows it is her right to allow or not allow someone to give her a kiss or hug her. So, if she didn’t want someone to slobber up her cheek with a kiss, her mother taught her how to say no. The same goes for hugs if she is not in a hugging mood.
“My daughter and her body do not exist to make anyone feel more comfortable or to make any feel more loved,” mom said.
Nevertheless, Brittany reports that the child’s grandparents are not happy with the rules of consent training. Although they believe the little girl should know how to protect herself from strangers, they want her to feel comfortable enough to receive a hug or a kiss from a grandparent who loves the child and does not have any ill intent when doing so.
“No one’s feelings are ever going to be more important than my daughter’s right to her own body,” Brittany said. “And I’m sure not going to allow her to grow up in an environment where 1. She doesn’t know how to say no, and 2. She doesn’t know what it looks like for her not to be respected.”
Often, consent is not taught to children at an early age. However, parents who teach their children about consent are helping make children stronger and more likely to resist the advances of a predator or sex trafficker who might try to kidnap the little one and take them away so they can do horrible things to them.
Brittany had both supporters and critics. One critic said:
“Hope she does a video in fifteen years discussing what effect the lack of emotional contact her children have had in their lives!”
A supporter wrote, “If a child doesn’t want to be hugged or kissed, don’t do it.”
Another supporter added, “Two of my grandchildren will hug goodbye with ‘I love you’ or if not in the mood will do a high five and ‘I love you.’ Either is fine. I know they love being around me, and I adore them.”
Do you think children should be taught about consent?