Any mom can tell you, sometimes, a mother in law can be overbearing. When a grandchild is brought into the world, the mother in law wants to tell the new mom how to do everything right. Sometimes they know how to give mom space, but more often than not, they’re pushy and try to influence the mother to do things the way they did years ago when raising their son, the father of the newborn baby – and this man, the father of the baby and the son of the mother in law, cannot get too involved because he’s stuck in the middle.
However, one mother in law went too far when she demanded that the new mother let her breastfeed the infant. The woman wrote a lengthy post on Reddit, asking people of the world to help her navigate this difficult and highly personal situation so she could do what was right for her infant baby while not stepping on her mother in law’s toes.
“My MIL may mean well, but she is absolutely bat shot crazy. I am due in November, and this pregnancy has been one stressor after another all stemming from her. My biggest issue is having absolutely no boundaries. My SO does not want to confront his mom for fear of her reaction, and also does not want me to do it. The last time I did (our wedding), we didn’t speak for six months. I don’t have the greatest filters when I am pushed to my limit.”
With an introduction like that, it is clear that this pregnant woman is up to her eyes with stress. She is ready to explode and just wants the mother in law to back off so she can deal with the challenging pregnancy herself rather than being pushed around.
But the mother in law wants to breastfeed the baby, and the pregnant woman is outraged.
She wrote, “She found articles from different cultures that do this and is thinking it’s a great idea. I have told her gross no. My mom got involved and said no, but she is still finding articles and sending them to me about all the benefits.”
Because the grandma would be in her sixties, it seems that breastfeeding is not only biologically out of the question, it just isn’t “normal.”
But mom was stuck. Her husband didn’t want her to confront the imposing mother in law, and he didn’t want to say anything himself. That’s why she turned to the internet for help.
“I don’t know what to do,” the poster continued. “I’m beyond done with this woman, but out of respect for my husband, I am trying to keep a level head, but I’m starting to fail with my due date fast approaching.”
When people read what was going on, they said that the husband needed to step up and be a man.
“Your husband should be the one shutting her down!” one person suggested. “‘Out of respect’ for your husband? I’m sorry, but where the [expletive] is HIS respect for YOU? He needs to tell his mom to stop. Now.”
What do you think?
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