One mother is stirring the pot by suggesting that mothers are failing their sons unless they put them through “husband bootcamp.” The mother wrote her opinions on the Café Mom blog under the parenting section. She opens with a simple anecdote about her young boy is finally expressing his personality with his love for “The Nightmare Before Christmas” and his passion for cleaning the house.
The mom describes how her toddler’s passion for cleaning started by “stealing the baby wipes.” He started climbing onto tables to wipe down the dirty surface. But things only got more intense, as the mom said.
“From there, any time I pulled out the broom and dustpan or ran the vacuum, he’d watch with wide-eyed fascination,” mom Lauren Gordon wrote. “When walking was part of the equation, he’d grab at the broom or wipe or whatever I was cleaning with at the time and pitch a total fit when I didn’t let him have it.”
What kind of mom is going to stop her child from doing the cleaning? If the baby likes doing it, let them. When she found the Melissa & Doug cleaning set at the store, she knew that her son was getting an early Christmas present.
“It had a him-sized broom, brush and dustpan, and mop all on a neat little rack that was just his height. I snagged it and showed my husband, and we were both so excited to get it for him,” she wrote. “Not thinking much of it while we were in line, I gushed to my husband about how excited I was to give him this set. Our cashier looked slightly surprised.”
The cashier found it strange that she was buying the cleaning set for her son. Gordon didn’t think anything of it, she said.
“Once I freed the broom from its package, I saw my son’s eyes light up like a Christmas tree. He squealed his happiest little yelp and quickly ‘went to work.’ It wasn’t until an hour (yes, one solid full hour) of watching him play with it that I replayed the cashier check out the situation in my head. By no means was the cashier rude or inflammatory — but the vibe I got was that she was genuinely surprised I was picking up such a toy for a little dude.”
Because some toys are designed for boys and others for girls, parents are pressured to buy only certain items for their little ones – regardless of their interests.
Gordon thinks it’s great her son is learning to clean at such a young age. “My son is only 15 months old, but we already practice a lot of basic life skills.”
Because she’s training her son to be a domestic man, she argues she’s putting the boy through “husband bootcamp,” and she thinks every mother should.
“Hopefully one day when his future partner is frantically rushing around the house to clean before their kid’s first birthday party, he’ll pitch in without being asked because he knows what to do.”
She added, “if my little guy wants a Barbie or baby doll, you’re darn right I’m going to get it for him. Learning through play is essential, and gender has nothing to do with it. Period.”
What do you think about toys for boys and girls? Should they stay gender specific?
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