When a woman decided to feel her best on the beach, cruel men taunted her for choosing to wear a bikini. Because she was a big girl, the men felt that she should never have exposed herself in the bikini the ways she had. However, the woman felt that such societal rules were only meant to be broken – so when she wrote an open letter on Facebook to all the male haters out there who didn’t like the way she looked in her bikini, she had a simple message of them: “f**k you!”
Her name is Shelley. Because she was dressing how she wanted to dress and not how the judgmental men at the beach felt she “should” dress, she got teased for wearing the bikini the way she wanted.
Shelley decided to share the revealing Facebook post following her beach trip to Mt. Maunganui Beach in New Zealand. The following is what she had to say to all the superficial men she came into contact with.
“To the guys who pointed and laughed when I took my sarong off today at Mt. Maunganui Beach, bearing my soul (my bikini body) to the world, I just want to say (excuse my language but) F**K YOU!”
Shelley continued her message with the following that went on to inspire women everywhere.
“It’s because of d**kheads like you that people are so incredibly insecure about their body image. It’s because of people like you that women, especially don’t feel safe or confident or comfortable to go out in society is something like a bikini, or a crop top (they probably aren’t even called that anymore!) or a short dress, or with their midriff showing.
“It’s because of people like you that people starve themselves and make themselves sick in an attempt to maintain a ‘model-like figure.’ It’s because of people like you that people wear long sleeves all year round because they are scared to show their arms. It’s because people like you that people become anorexic, obese, bulimic, self-harm, commit suicide. I could go on.”
She added, “No, you are not responsible for the entirety. But YES. You have to take some responsibility. Next time you see someone like me on the beach in a bikini or in a situation similar, before you laugh and point, take a moment to think about the damage you may just do, because not every person, young or old, male or female, will have learned to have the thick skin, or the resilience, or the self-confidence, that I do to brush it off.”
Shelley concluded her post with a call to action for parents.
“I urge you to teach your children that there is no one body shape, but instead that there is a rainbow of beautiful bodies. I urge you to teach them not to stare directly at a bigger stomach than they might be accustomed to seeing on TV or in society, but instead, to look at a person’s face and into their eyes.”
Shelley hopes that when more people stand up to bullies, the world will be a better place for all.
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