Nature can be cruel. When it came to Devan Merck, it was not only cruel but unusual. She was twelve when she first learned that she had been born without a vagina. In the intervening eleven years, the now 23-year-old Devan has cycled through a number of boyfriends who never seemed to accept her bizarre condition. But after so many boyfriends dumped the Georgia girl due to the medical condition she could not control, fate took a hand in her life and introduced her to the one person who loves her and accepts her for who she is.
“For years, I was bullied and felt different. Kids would call me a ‘boy’ and a ‘freak’ and boyfriends would disappear when they realized I wouldn’t have sex,” she told Barcroft Media.
It wasn’t that Devan didn’t want to engage in sexual intercourse; it was simply that she was unable to do so. Because she was born without a vagina, she simply did not have the biological capacity to engage. She was diagnosed with Mayer-Rokitanksy-Kuster-Hauser syndrome, which indicates she was born without a vaginal opening, a cervix, and a malformed uterus.
“I couldn’t have sex,” she said. “So it was difficult to have a boyfriend that was okay with that. It definitely ended some relationships really quick. But those relationships were not meant to be, and that’s okay.”
Because Devan had no choice but to accept the bizarre situation nature had bestowed upon her, she decided to look for people who would accept her for who she was.
Then she experienced a breakthrough. As she got older, doctors were able to offer her consolation. They could create an artificial vagina for her, so she could engage in sex like other women.
After the operation, she thought she found the perfect man. But when they argued, he would turn to her condition and hit her with cruel insults out of the blue. He would tell her about how her “artificial vagina” was not only ugly but “smelled” and “felt different” than the other girls he had slept with.
Fortunately, Devan ended things with this loser. Because she refused to be with someone who put her down for something she could not control, she left him. By opening up space in her heart, she was ready and willing to accept Trent when he walked into her life. And Trent proved to be the perfect partner for Devan. He accepted her for who she was – no strings attached.
Because of their unconditional love, something amazing happened. They were blessed to welcome a baby into the world. According to a baby registry with Target, the happy couple had a baby due at the beginning of March 2019. Despite the odds, their love created life.
However, Devan never let the fact that she was born different from other women stop her from living the life of her dreams. With Trent by her side, they are ready to conquer the world and live the best life they know-how.
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