The day that Jeff and Natasha learned they were expected a daughter was a day they would remember for the rest of their lives. The thought of having a family together was enough to raise their spirits to cloud nine. And Jeff was thrilled to have a little girl he could dote over and give tons of gifts and kisses and tons of love.
But just three weeks after she was born, the little girl died, and the parents were utterly devastated when it happened. Now Jeff and Natasha want other expectant parents to understand what happened to them. They never want another pair of lovebirds to go through the torture and torment they have. Losing the little girl has broken their hearts.
When doctors told the parents that the way the little girl died could have been prevented, their sadness was replaced with anger.
Jeff wrote the following on Facebook to educate others about the risk they had faced and hadn’t known.
“I’ve been pretty silent since Mallory’s death. It’s taken me over a month now to write this, but if any good can come from her passing and prevent someone else from experiencing the heartache, then I would be remiss not to make an effort. If you have a new baby or will be around a new baby, wash your hands. A lot. If anyone wants to hold your baby, make sure they wash their hands first. Then make them do it again…”
“HSV-1, most commonly known as the virus behind cold sores, is a form of herpes (Herpes Simplex Virus-1). It is EXTREMELY common, and the World Health Organization estimates that 67% of all humans on Earth are infected. To make things worse, many people who are infected will never show symptoms in their lifetime and probably don’t even know they have it. For newborns, it is more than likely fatal, as was the case for Mallory.
“You might think it should have been easy to diagnose. Surely someone with an oozing cold sore kissed her on the mouth, right? Mallory was never in contact with a person who had an active cold sore. Never. Nobody ever kissed her on the mouth. In spite of that, she caught HSV-1 within her first week of life, and we had to watch her die slowly for nearly 2 weeks. Mallory could not keep her hands out of her mouth and eyes, and she was constantly sucking on her fingers [see picture above]], so it’s almost certain that the virus got onto her hands at some point. It is possible to be contagious even without an active cold sore.
“She had no symptoms beyond a high fever for most of the first week, and by the time blisters showed up it was probably too late for the antivirals to be effective. Considering that more than half the world has the cold sore virus, we don’t understand why so few infants die from the disease or why our beautiful daughter Mallory was the unlucky statistic, but that’s the way the world works I suppose.
“Please, if you’re reading this, be extra diligent about washing your hands around newborns. Statistically speaking, you’re probably infected with HSV-1 whether you know it or not.”