People can be so rude sometimes, but in this case, a total stranger’s hurtful letter to school teacher Kelley Markland made her more resilient. The curvy mother received an anonymous letter in the mail, with no return address. The message was cruel, including a note and a meme that mocked her body and criticized her for wearing yoga pants — and it really made Kelley feel terrible.
She explained on Facebook: “So, I came home from celebrating a fun birthday dinner for Mia and we were all so happy! I open my mail to find this envelope with a silly picture (not me in that picture BTW) and a note. Apparently, I weigh 300 pounds and I shouldn’t wear leggings anymore.”
The picture showed a heavy woman’s backside in leggings and included a meme of Anchorman’s Ron Burgundy saying: “Your pants say yoga but your butt says McDonald’s.” The note ready simply (and rudely): “Women who weigh 300 pounds should not wear yoga pants!!”
Kelley was crushed, noting in her Facebook post: “Anyone who knows me, knows that I care deeper and stronger than many. I am a sensitive woman and I despise cruelty towards others. At 36 years old, I am STILL being made fun of. Whoever sent this, be an adult and tell me who you are. JUST TELL ME!!!”
She added: ” I have never pretended to be pretty or look good in clothing, I have never tried to be flashy or show off. Wearing my ‘fun’ leggings gave me a tad bit of confidence in not looking sloppy all the time. I’m sorry that some of you may not like it, but I’m not dressing for you. All the hate in this world, and you have to pick on me for this?! … A wonderful night with my family had to end like this… so unbelievably disappointed in people anymore.”
What a crushing blow. Kelley, however hurt she was by the note, didn’t let the bully win, telling Today: “I had to remember, if I walked around defeated and scared, then whoever sent that letter wins. And I wasn’t going to let that person win. At all.”
And it turns out Kelley had an amazing support system in her colleagues who, after hearing about the note Kelley received, surprised her at school by wearing similar brightly patterned yoga pants in solidarity.
Kelley explained how much that small gesture meant to her, noting: “All the teachers were coming up and hugging me and showing me their leggings. So I knew at that point, it’s not about me anymore, it’s about all women.”
Her Facebook post got plenty of attention and a flood of supportive comments, with one person pointing out: “This makes me so sad… what’s wrong with people. Obviously the person who wrote to you has big issues and the need to belittle you is a reflection of their low self esteem. They need help.”
Another commenter noted: “How sad that person’s life must be to write something so hateful!!! Who made him (or her) the fashion police? All that being said, Good for you!!! Rock whatever you feel like rocking. We all bring something different and of value to the table. It’s obvious you bring courage and strength while that person is desperately looking for a spine!”