Not long after her 38th birthday, Sonia Todd passed away from cancer. She died in 2012 and was sorely missed by her family and friends. In life, Sonia Todd had been a beacon of light, a warm presence in every situation, and with her gone, the world was worse off. But before she died and passed onto the next world, Sonia Todd managed to teach the people closest to her a vital lesson about life, one that they will never forget and hope to share with you.
Because the cancer was taking its toll on her, Sonia Todd knew that her end was coming. Instead of approaching the inevitable with fear and dread, she took another approach – one that inspired everyone in her life. She wanted to live her final days with grace and humility and love. That’s why she wrote her own obituary as a way to talk about herself as a human – not a perfect being – but a person just like you and me who makes mistakes and learns.
Because she had written her obituary before she died on October 17, 2012, her obituary was published and read by all those close to her. But now, years later, her obituary has resurfaced as people realize just how inspiring it truly is.
“My name is Sonia Todd, and I died of cancer at the age of 38. I decided to write my own obituary because they are usually written in a couple of different ways that I just don’t care for…”
“The truth, or my version of it, is this: I just tried to do the best I could. Sometimes I succeeded, most of the time I failed, but I tried. For all of my crazy comments, jokes, and complaints, I really did love people. I didn’t always do the right thing or say the right thing, and when you come to the end of your life, those are the things you really regret – the small, simple things that hurt other people.”
“Some folks told me that writing my own obituary was morbid, but I think it is great because I get a chance to say thank you to all the people who helped me along the way. Those who loved me assisted me, cared for me, laughed with me and taught me things so that I could have a wonderful, happy life. I was blessed beyond measure by knowing all of you. That is what made my life worthwhile. If you think of me and would like to do something in honor of my memory, do this:”
“Volunteer at a school, church, or library. Write a letter to someone and tell them how they have had a positive effect on your life. If you smoke, quit. If you drink and drive, stop. Turn off the electronics and take a kid out for ice cream and talk to them about their hopes and dreams. Forgive someone who doesn’t deserve it. Stop at all lemonade stands run by kids and brag about their product. Make someone smile today. If it is in your power to do so.”
When our lives reach their ends, the truth shines through like lightning. We thank Sonia Todd for sharing her truth with us and inspiring us while she still could.
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