Every woman wants to feel special. But when she learns that her husband or fiancé does not think she is as special as she feels she deserves to be treated, things can get heated. Such imbalance can cause resentment in relationships and even contempt. After one woman thought that her engagement ring looked small – and then found the receipt for the purchase – she decided to vent about her mistreatment on social media, shaming her husband-to-be in the process.
These days proposals revolved around more than just the ring. Men are expected to shock their would-be wives with amazing public displays of affection from getting featured on the JumboTron to getting the entire city to applaud the act of love.
Because women these days are coming to expect the bells and whistles that come along with the proposal, they can get a bit salty if they feel they are short-changed. That’s what happened to when one woman shared her disappointment at getting the diamond of her nightmares. She complained about her “small” ring, hoping to get sympathy and advice on how to deal with her cheap man, but instead, she left a lot of people fuming with rage.
She wrote on Mumsnet: “DP proposed and presented me with the ring he’d chosen – a diamond solitaire in white gold. I was so happy and excited to accept but was disappointed when I first saw the ring. The first word that entered my head was ‘small.’”
Instead of speaking to her fiancé about it, the woman decided to share the emasculating story all over the internet.
“There’s nothing to dislike about the type of ring per ser. As a diamond solitaire would have been my choice, but it’s the whole thing – the color of the gold, the setting, the small stone, and relatively chunky shoulders. His salary is nearing a 6 figure sum, and he’s usually very generous. Having seen the receipt, I know he paid (about $1,700) for it, which is a lot less than I would have imagined he would have spent on such a significant piece of jewelry.
“He’ll be more disappointed in me for making a fuss over it when, in his eyes, it fits, and there’s nothing actually wrong with it, rather than being disappointed that I’m not truly happy with it.”
The woman then compared herself to someone at the job.
“Someone at work apparently told him that ‘if she makes it all about the ring, then she’s not the girl for you.’ Ideally, I would have loved for us to have chosen a ring together and made a special day finding one we both liked. As it’s something, I’ll be wearing every day and is such a special piece of jewelry. I wanted to really love it, and I just don’t.”
She then asked people for advice and got railed in the process.
People called the woman spoiled and revealed how ungrateful she seemed given that the first thing she thought when he proposed was how “small” it was.
“If you’d said you didn’t like the style, I’d have been fairly sympathetic. But if it’s simply not big and flashy enough, it sounds like you’re more interested in showing off the ring than you are in him.”
In other words, she was exactly the type of girl the people at work warned him about.
Do you think she is right to complain?
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